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“The Old Man Lost His Horse.” Sai Weng Shi Ma

The Old Man Lost His Horse

👴 “Old Man Sai Lost His Horse.” Sai Weng Shi Ma. 塞翁失马, ,焉知非福.

It’s an ancient Chinese story which pretty much sums up my life.

And maybe yours, too. ↴

The story goes like this: One day, Old Man Sai lost a horse. The villagers came around to console him. But he was not sad. He said, “How can you know it’s not a blessing?”

Months later, the horse returned, bringing with it another, even better and faster horse. The villagers came around to congratulate the old man. He said, “How can you know it’s not a curse?”

The old man’s son loved to ride the new horse, but one day fell off and broke his leg. The villagers came around to console the old man. He said, “How can you know it’s not a blessing?”

Then, the Northern barbarians invaded and all the young men were commanded to go to war. Most died. It was only because of the son’s broken leg that he was spared his life.

The parable goes on. You get the idea.

By now, I’ve lived long enough to see that the parable of Old Man Sai and his horse pretty much sums up my entire life.

💧 Growing up, I was miserable about not having blonde hair and blue eyes. I just wanted the other kids to think I was pretty. I just wanted them to like me.

🌷 Now, I love being Chinese and speaking Chinese. My language and culture connect me with a billion people around the world.

💧 Starting at age 18 for two decades, I searched for love in all the wrong places. My heart was broken too many times to count.

🌷 Now, each morning I wake up to find my best friend beside me, and my heart begins to sing.

💧 Earlier in my career, I desperately wanted to be a real-estate developer. I tried for 10 years, earning TWO graduate degrees in real estate, before finally giving up.

🌷 I’ve since had 3 fulfilling careers, and at this point think I’ll just keep reinventing myself forever.

So many times, I’ve been disappointed, frustrated, mad, or sad, only to realize later that the awful thing that happened was not so bad after all, and maybe even was a good thing.

Old Man Sai lost his horse.

How can you know it’s not a blessing?

You never know what tomorrow brings.

👴 Have YOU ever lost a horse and found a blessing? 👴

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